Category: Dating and Relationships
hey everyone, has anyone ever wondered why guys cheet on other girls? I have to say it is totally wrong. Why is it that people who are in a relationship have to hurt or cheet? post a reply to this everyone if you can
They do it because they are stupid. Then 9 times out of 10 they don't realize what they had until they have screwed it up, then it's too late!
i never realised before that it was only guy's the cheated in relationships! wow this place is educational!
Well I think also girls can cheat to other boys. NOt only boys. I have to help the men there. And, why they do it - I don't know. Maybe no good sex, maybe they don't love their partner anymore.
I think that guys cheat on girls and girls cheat on guys!!! There is no real difference in my oppinion. Maybe they cheat because the love seems to have died. Maybe it's because they are in an abusive relationship. (I have a cousin who did that.) It could be because they want the other person to feel jealous therefore proving to them that they still care for the cheater. It could also be that their lover cheated on them so they want to hurt them back. Though I always believe that two wrongs don't make a right. And it could be because of the simple reason that they are not with the right person. Hope this helps.
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Fear of commitment imaturity and a need to prove their manhood by putting it about...also a large part of it is the need to spread their DNA, to ensure the survival of their lineage,we'er not that far removed from the animals...
There could be many reasons for anyone to do this. Insecurity is one reason...many people are not sure of what they are looking for in a relationship so the feel the need to experiment with many relationships to see which one they like better. For as many people that you have that cheat, there are just as many answers to that question.
hahahah Goblin. Your post made me smile!!! "The need to spread their DNA..." hahahhaha
A guy cheating with another girl? Hmm I think that guy is unhappy with the relationship he has with his girlfriend, break ups can help but maybe his in lots of circumstances that are hard to explain, like he feels bad about breaking up. Then why cheat? For the feeling of being satisfied in the present. And not bothering to think whats ahead in the future.
Lol but it's true though, they really want to spread their DNA, lol.
Its obvious that we want to replicate ourselves... I did cheat as a teenager and eh the repercussions were not pretty.
i think insecurity is the main reason why people cheat. as for me cheating, i never have, and never will, its wrong, and i dont have the heart to hurt anyone like that. i treat people the way i want to be treated, and i value myself to much for that.
Play both sides against the middle and pick the relationship that works out best.
The forbidden aspect of it. Also if someone feels like they're in a relationship they can't get out of (like if they have kids and a rough financial situation). Not making it right, but their justification is that what they don't know won't hurt them, meaning the partner. Many people use partners for money and aren't really in love so they cheat. Also not enough trust factor, not enough openness and honesty; it takes lots of deception to cheat and not confess the transgression.
I agree, 1800 Trivia. And, I'm glad i have not your point of you, Blindguy. Honestly.
Well Ines, Blindguy has a point. Some people do that. to me it is just disgusting...Having two people involved in you,leading both on to believe that something will come from the relationship while you figure out which one will better serve your needs. It's hard to believe that someone can be so two faced. Many do it just to see how far they can get with someone else. More of an ego thing because the are insecure with themselves.
Of course some people do that but it seems as though he just said this will be the best thing to do!!! Like a suggestion!!!!!
I didn't take it like that...I took it he possibly had an experience or knows of someone who had and was just telling about it. Not necessarily condoning it or suggesting it.
Well in this case of course he is right but the way it sounded ... oh well, anyway. How can we know who already cheated on here? They might all be saying "I never done it and I think it's rude", but, maybe they did it already. I know, you can not say that about me either, but I can tell you that I never did in my two relationships I had in my life, they were (and are of course) precious to me.
yeah I wonder why that is. I mean if my bf cheated on me I'd feel like I wasn't good enough for him. Well not only do guys cheat on the girls , but in some cases the girls cheat on the guys. here is a quesiton that I'll throw out, if you love the person then why would you cheat on them?
cuz its not really love. if you really and truly love the person, you wouldnt cheat, bottom line.
I don't know why people cheat on each other. It's sad, senseless, and if you are in love with someone else, or if you don't want the person anymore, just be honest. I could never Cheat on the one I'm with. I'm stupid, and an idiot sometimes, but I'd never do that.
most of the guys are easily feel lonely, lonesome, and well, when they feel so, they feel like they want something new to fresh their mind and hmm... thats why they will go for the cheeting game
well firstly I would kinda like to jump to the defence of guys here because I do feel they have perhaps been a little unfairly treated? It's not just guys who cheat, women do as well, although a recent survey did suggest that more often than not, if a woman cheats, she will ultimately leave her partner for the one she is cheating with, whereas for guys it is often more of a distraction.
I wouldn't justify cheating, however, we are humans, and even if you love someone, if another comes along and you are flattered or baffled by that someone, I don't think it's odd.
If you take this "crush" further, and you cheat on your partner, I don't think you and your partner is so secure though.
But getting a crush on someone else once or twice, ... isn't that normal?
well, then comes the question doesn't it. what would we define as cheating. do you consider developing feelings for another individual to be cheating on your partner? even if you don't act on those feelings? or is it not actually cheating until you sleep with that other person. different people have different views on the matter, some feel that if they've developed feelings for another individual it is a betrayal to the feelings they had for their current partner, but unless you act on those feelings, you are not technically cheating ...
and to take it further still .. how far do you have to progress with the other person before you consider it cheating, holding hands? kissing? sex?
As you said, people have different views. I think the moment you and the "third party" get emosionally attracted to one another, or when there is talk of ... deeper feelings between the 2 of you, then you can be regarded as a cheater.
But with a crush or 2 ... as long as no one finds out about it, and as long as you don't take those feelings further, I don't think it's wrong. Like I said earlier: we're humans, not computers.
ah but, if you become emotionally attracted to someone and those feelings are recipricated, although you might talk about it, it is possible that you might never act on those feelings in a physical sense,and therefore you have technically remained loyal to your existing partner. Although should cheating then not be put into two categories, the emotional type, (which is the most hurtful in my view), after all if you develop feelings for someone else and your partner finds out about it they will be very hurt and feel betrayed and perhaps as if they are second best, and physical cheating, which, although equally as bad, in some instances is perhaps not as hurtful because, let's face it, sometimes, people cheat on a physical level and yet there is no emotional attachment, so ... say .. for gratification purposes as it were ... a person might get drunk at a party and end up sleeping with someone else, they have cheated, but in the morning they would probably regret it and they would never persue a relationship with that person ...
can one really always control your feelings 100%
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well, if you get drunk, basically you are totally out of your mind, and well i think people cheats because, as it has been said over and over well you like the new partner more and well cheating is not applyed when you just told your partner you just are not happy with your relationship, although cheating and sepparating both do hurt I think you feel less guilty by telling than by cheating...
well firstly i disagree on that score, being drunk does not give you a reason to go and sleep with someone and then say it was the drink's fault the next day. secondly, it's true that we can't be in control of our feelings 100% of the time, what we can be in control of though, is whether or not we act on them.
Also, if you're feeling deeper emotional feelings for someone new than you're feeling for your partner, then if you don't discuss it with your partner, that's cheating in my value system. Also, I think it's best to share crushes and temptations. you can laugh about them together, tease each other, or just get it off your chest and you both will know that if you can tell the uncomfortable shit, then you'll be there for each other and can trust each other.
easier said than done 1800 trivia, but probably the best way to go.
you go baby that is soooo true
I truly think people cheat because they are either in an unhappy relationship they feel they can't get out of, or they are insecure and need an eago boost aren't truly in love with their partner. To me it's plane wrong and disrespectful imo.
Well my answer is going to be plain as day here. Anyone who cheats on their partner are disrespectful insecure dumbasses. I mean if your so unhappy with a relationship then break up and move on. That's the simple solution rather than causing a huge drama scene by cheating on your partner with someone else. And of course there men and women are are complete players and can't control their hormones, all I can say about that is "play on players", dating is not for you if that's the case. It takes awhile to find true love so don't rush it.
I think that people who cheat are not only insecure, but selfish cowards. They only htink of themselves because they. aren't happy and instead of being decent men or women, they go off and find someone else to satisfy them. People like that don't care if it hurts their partner, as long as they're happy. It's disgusting, but true.
It would be a lot easier for people to just admit they aren't happy instead of seeking another partner while they are with someone. Just my two cents worth.
Cheating is natural. If it weren't, we'd all pick a mate for life and never stray. i'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying it's nature's way of, as Goblin would say, having us spread our DNA.
I have cheated before. Not very much, and it was only in one relationship. I am not proud of it, but neither do I feel guilty for doing it. I hope I never do it again, but I will never say never because somehow that always backfires on me.
what's natural to you, may not be to others. it just depends on what your values are and such.
I consider it natural because it has gone on ever since, and perhaps before, humans developed inteligence. It has nothing to do with values--it was not something my parents ever encouraged, nor did I witness it when I was growing up. I don't condone or believe in it, however, as I said before, if we were meant to be monogamous, we wouldn't have the urge to seek out other mates while in a relationship with someone else. Think about it, even when you're dating someone, it's still possible to be attracted to someone else. Of course, as long as one doesn't act on those feelings, then no harm is done, but it happens to all of us.
yeah, but there's a big difference between being attracted to someone else while you're in a relationship, and acting on those feelings.
I believe that cheating isn't necessarily linked to love. i have been cheated on in the past and i honestly believe that my partner loved me. i believe it can be something which is part of a person's personality... some people will have cheated from very young, and will continue to cheat, however much they love a person, even if they lose them, they will still notlearn. i think this is probably down to insecurity. then, you get oter types who will cheat because it's there for them on a plate and they just, think, wel, what the partner doesn't know won't hurt, and they just do it and feel bad or not, and dont say anything. and then you get the ones who get bored sexually but still love their partner so they'l cheat because they see it as a way of keeping themselves happy in the relationship, by getting rid of any sexual unhappiness, they can stay happy with their current partner...
the thing about cheating which gets me is that there is a difference between people who cheat and confess, and those who don't. the ones who don't confess, who lie, who do almost absolutely anything to hide it and who will carry on like nothing has hapened, are the ones i don't understand. i realise you are afraid of losing that person if u say anything, but i know if i ever cheated i would have to tell my partner because it would be his choice whether he stayed or went, i have no right to try to correct a mistake which i made or hide it from him. so, why do some people go so far as to hide cheating from their partners and why do some people tell their partners and honestly are sorry? if they're unhappy, surely it would be a blessing if they did find out and left. so is it honestly that simple?
Wow, a lot of questions that really don't seem to have answers. Everyone is different, and people have different motivations for doing what they do. I honestly believe there are some people who don't have a conscience. In other words, they cheat and believe there is nothing wrong with doing so. There are others who cheat and do have a conscience and feel guilty afterwards. I think some don't tell their partners because they know their partner won't be able to forgive them. If they do tell their partner, maybe it's because they think their partner can forgive them and that the marriage or relationship can go on. Or maybe they confess because they want the relationship to end but don't have the guts to just come out and say it's over. Hmmm, I seem to be rambling now so I'll quit. This is a complicated issue and there is no one answer.
Well, I guess every guy is different and it depends on many things, his age, experience, personality, etc. Sometimes peers, friends or parents can have a great influence on him as well and if he is attractive, smart and good looking, other girls may enjoy his company and something may come out of it as well.
Just don't put up with the cheating on either side.
If so, then drop the partner like a bad habbit!!!!!
There r certain guys I will not date, cheaters being one of them. I've been cheated on once, and it wasn't pretty. I was given no indication of anything. In fact, he didn't tell me to my face! A friend of mine found a newspaper article that had talked about him getting married! I felt like I was in a horrible movie or something! I wondered y he would cheat on me, since he had been cheated on in his previous relationship and the wounds from that still very fresh. Also, I wondered if I did anything wrong. However, my friends told me that I did nothing wrong and that it was all him. In fact, two of my friends tried to warn me, but that thought never crossed my mind. Cheating is not a good thing to do. If u can't give your heart to one person, y give it to two?
1. What I'm mostly reading here is "all cheaters are bad". That's the same as saying "All blind people are helpless". It's a generalization, and I take great insult to some of this. I have (almost) cheated on my husband, and it had nothing to do with "not loving him", "having no conscience", etc. It had purely to do with attraction. I didn't cheat, and I still confessed the issue, and he was able to forgive me; which I'm very glad for. But as we don't like being steriotyped as a blind group, I don't understand why so many of us steriotype other groups. The reasons for cheating are as varied as the reasons for getting on the zone. I do appreciate those views that have pointed out that there is no one single answer; there isn't, though I do believe the number 1 reason is dissatisfaction with the bedroom life, it certainly isn't the only reason.
Once or twice? People who are even in relationships have crushes. The feelings themselves aren't bad. it's how you react to those feelings that counts.